Chinese people believe that the offering of gifts is an important part of socialising. They see it as appropriate to show courtesy especially in the following circumstances: at birthdays, weddings, festivals, etc. In addition, Chinese people also believe that 礼尚往来 one good turn deserves another. Thus one needs to remember to treat other people in return. When you are invited to a family party, make sure you arrive with small gifts such as tea, cigarettes, fruit or sweets. However, some cultural connotations are attached to gifts and one needs to be aware of the DOs and DON’Ts of gifting!

When being entertained in a restaurant, do not insist on paying your share but gracefully accept being treated by your host. Your host will usually order more food than can possibly be eaten to demonstrate courtesy, generosity and the financial capability to entertain. You should offer to reciprocate the invitation but do not try to outdo your host. When it’s your turn to host, make sure that your offer is generous, e.g. order more food than what you think is the ‘right’ amount. It is very important for your guests to see that you are eager to treat them well and respect them. You should always verbally insist that there is not enough food on offer or that the food is not good enough for your guests, as opposed to enquiring whether there is too much (although it is usually the case!).

Chinese people are very hospitable. They like inviting people to their home for a meal, or take their guests to a nearby restaurant. When visiting friends, you are expected to bring something with you, even if your hosts have told you 什么都别带，我们什么都有(Don't bring anything, we have got everything). Fruit such as apples and melons are common gifts. They are not specifically chosen for your host or hostess, just something that you bring along with you so that you don't arrive empty-handed! People seldom bring cakes, except if it's someone's birthday. During Chinese Spring Festival, 红包 (red bag money) is the usual gift for youngsters in the family.